TL;DR: Training as a former athlete is difficult for a reason that has nothing to do with talent or age. The structure that made you consistent, a coach who removed every decision and a team that noticed when you did not show up, disappeared somewhere between high school and your first job, and nothing replaced it. Getting it back means training for the body you have now instead of the athlete you remember being.
There is a photo of you somewhere in a uniform.
You were in the best shape of your life and you barely thought about it. Practice was on the calendar whether you felt like it or not. Somebody told you what to lift and how many. Somebody noticed when you didn’t show up, and said something about it the next day.
You’ve been trying to recreate that on your own ever since.
It hasn’t worked, and the story you’ve landed on to explain why is that you got older. That you had something once and it’s gone now. You look at a photo from twelve years ago and the distance between that person and this one feels bigger than any single decision you can point to.
I’ve sat down with every person who has walked into our gym, and I hear that story constantly. It’s the wrong story. It’s also an inaccurate one, and an inaccurate diagnosis keeps you reaching for the wrong fix.
Key Insights
- What made you consistent as an athlete was a coach who removed every decision and a schedule you didn’t get a vote on. Discipline got the credit.
- Most former athletes lose that structure between the end of high school and the end of college, and coast on residual fitness through their 20s without noticing what actually left.
- The story that you’ve simply aged is the most common explanation and the least accurate one. It also happens to be the only explanation that requires nothing of you.
- Former athletes train harder than anyone and recover worse than anyone, because they were taught to go until empty and nobody ever taught them the other half.
- The fastest progress usually comes from training alongside people who expect you there, which is the part of your old team you never thought to replace.
Why Former Athletes Fall Further Than People Who Never Played
Former athletes should be the easiest people in the world to get back in shape. They know how to be coached. They understand progression, they have done hard training before, and they are not squeamish about effort. On paper they need less help than anybody. In practice they often end up further from fitness than someone who never played a sport in their life, and the reason is that they are missing something they never knew they were using. Organized sport hands you two things quietly. The first is accountability, a team that expects you to show up and not let anyone down. The second is the removal of decision-making. Somebody else decides what you do today, and you just do it.
Both of those get taken away at once, usually somewhere between your last high school season and your last semester of college.
Nobody frames it as a loss at the time. You’re twenty-two, you feel fine, and you’ve got other things going on. The residual fitness carries you for a while. You play pickup, you ski, you hike, you get hurt occasionally and bounce back inside a week.
That works for most of your 20s. Then one day you’re in your 30s and you do the math.
Yeah, I’ve been playing a lot of sports, but I really haven’t touched a barbell or put any weights in my hands yet.
So you go looking for strength training, because by now you understand it matters. And here’s where it falls apart. The last time you strength trained with any consistency, you were in a weight room with your team and a coach telling you exactly what to do. That’s the only version of it you’ve ever known how to sustain.
Without that, you flounder. You do a few weeks, you drop off. You try again in January. Eventually you find a group class, because a class at least has a time and a person at the front, and for a while that feels like the answer.
Then you get hurt. Not because the class was bad, but because nobody in that room was guiding you on how to be a former athlete in a 38-year-old body.
How the Gap Shows Up, Depending on What You Played
The pain point looks different depending on where your athleticism came from, and the version you’re living is worth naming, because the fix changes.
You played an organized sport, and it ended on a specific day. Soccer, football, basketball, wrestling, track. There was a last game and then there wasn’t a next one. You kept playing rec leagues for a while because you couldn’t quite walk away, and then work or kids or a move ended that too. The structure vanished all at once and you’ve never had it since.
You were an outdoor athlete, and it’s fading slowly instead of stopping. Skiing, snowboarding, hiking, climbing, riding. You’re still doing it, and that’s the confusing part. The recovery takes days now instead of hours, and there’s a point in the afternoon where you’re just trying to get back down. Travis is 53 and races endurance horses. He described the old version to me like this: “In my 20s and 30s I could just cowboy it out.” And the current one: “I’m 53, everything hurts now.”
You found a group class and it broke something. You went in because you wanted someone to tell you what to do again, and that instinct was correct. What you got was a room that would happily let you train like the twenty-four-year-old you still think you are. A year out with an injury is a common ending to that story.
You never stopped moving, you just stopped training. You’re active. You’ve got a step count you’re proud of. But you haven’t progressively loaded anything in a decade, and the difference between being busy and being strong has quietly become the whole problem.
My Take: You Are Still Coaching Yourself From a Twenty-Year-Old Memory
Here’s what I believe about this, and it’s the part most people push back on.
You are running training instructions that were written for a body you no longer have, and following them feels like virtue.
Every former athlete I work with arrives with the same instinct: go until you’re empty. That’s what training meant. Practice ended when the coach decided you’d had enough, and the measure of a good session was how wrecked you felt walking out. Rest wasn’t part of it. Rest was what happened to people who weren’t serious.
That instinct made you good at seventeen. It’s actively costing you now.
And the reason you can’t see it is that in your head, you still have it. Your self-image is roughly twenty years out of date, and nobody has ever corrected it, because how would they. So you keep programming for an athlete who doesn’t exist, get worse results than you expect, and file the difference under getting old.
What we do differently is meet you where you actually are. Not where you remember being. That sounds soft and it is the opposite of soft, because it usually means telling you to do less in a session than you want to.
Ryan is the clearest example I have.
He played soccer from the time he was six. Competitive through college, then rec leagues after that because he loved it too much to stop entirely. He stayed active the way former athletes do, hiking and snowboarding and generally staying busy. Eventually he found CrossFit, specifically because he missed having someone tell him what to do.
That’s the mechanism, out of his own mouth, before he’d ever heard me describe it.
What he didn’t have was anyone adjusting it for him. He lost over a year to it. He came to us frustrated and eager in equal measure, wanting his old self back, and wanting it fast.
The most important work we did with him had nothing to do with how much weight was on the bar. It was making him rest.
He hated it. One to two minutes between sets and he fought me on every one of them, because sitting still felt like wasting the session. He wanted to go. That’s the athlete in him, and it’s the exact thing that had been holding him back for a decade.
He trusted the process anyway, and then he watched it work.
The rest turned into his single biggest asset. Recovering properly between sets is what lets him give a genuinely maximal effort on the next one, instead of a slightly worse effort five times in a row. That’s why the numbers started moving.
He’s 44. At the end of this month he tests for the 1,000-pound club (1,000 lbs spread across your one-rep max on bench, squat, and deadlift). That would be more than he ever put up as an athlete, and more than he’s put up at any point in his life.
He came in wanting the old version back. He went past it.
What Training as a Former Athlete Actually Takes
Here is the honest answer, and it disappoints people who want a specialized protocol. Training as a former athlete is not very different from training anybody else your age. The program is roughly the same. The difference is entirely in your head, and that is exactly why you have not been able to do it alone. Someone who never played a sport was never trained to go until empty, so that instinct is not in their way. Yours is. The work is getting you to accept a plan built for the body you have, at the pace that body responds to, when every instinct you own is telling you to push harder.
In practice, that comes down to a handful of things.
Take the rest. Ninety seconds to two minutes between working sets. It will feel lazy. It’s the mechanism that lets you actually load the next set, and it’s the single most common thing I have to enforce with former athletes.
Let somebody else make the decisions again. This is the part you’re already good at and have been trying to do without. You were an excellent athlete partly because you were coachable. That skill didn’t expire.
Train around people who notice. The team is the piece almost nobody thinks to replace. When three people expect you at 6:30 and say something when you’re not there, showing up stops being a daily negotiation with yourself.
Progress on paper, not on feel. You used to have somebody tracking your numbers. Feel is a bad measure at 40 because your sense of a hard session was calibrated on a body that recovered overnight.
Stop training for the athlete in the photo. That person had a different job, a different schedule, and different recovery. Building the strongest version of the body you have now is a better goal, and for most people it turns out to be a higher ceiling than the one they were mourning.
Travis again, because his version of the payoff is the one I’d want. A few weeks ago he was at a wedding where he and his wife had ten or fifteen years on most of the room. He’s not a dancer. His words: “I’m a terrible dancer, but at this stage, I will get on the dance floor just to contribute.”
He danced for an hour. What he told me afterwards was this: “But I didn’t get gassed.”
Nobody sells that in a fitness ad. It’s what the work is actually for.
Questions Former Athletes Ask at Their First Session
I’m in my 40s. Is it realistic to get back to where I was?
Usually you can go past it, which surprises people. Where you were at twenty-two was the product of a sport-specific schedule, not a maximum. Most former athletes have never trained purely for strength with a plan and a coach, so their real ceiling has never been tested. That’s the situation Ryan was in, and he’s about to lift more than he ever has.
Why can’t I just do this myself? I know how to train.
You know how to be trained, which is a different skill and a genuinely valuable one. What you’re missing is the person deciding what happens today and the people who notice when you don’t turn up. Most former athletes who try it alone end up cycling through the same handful of exercises and rescheduling sessions until the week runs out.
Does training as a former athlete require a special program?
No. The program looks much like anyone else’s at your age and stage. What differs is the coaching, because your instincts fight the plan in specific ways. Chiefly, you will want to skip rest and add weight faster than the tissue is ready for, and you will read being told to slow down as being underestimated.
Getting Coached Again in Fort Collins
If any of this landed, the useful next step is a conversation.
Come in and talk to us. We’ll ask what you played, what your body does now that it didn’t used to, and what you’d want to be able to do again. And if you tell us you want to look around before you decide, we’ll hand you the names of the other places in town worth your time. You were going to find them anyway, and I’d rather you heard them from me.
RE:GEN is a semi-private gym in North Fort Collins. You train on your own program, at the same time as a small group of people who learn your name and clock your absence. For a former athlete, that combination tends to be the closest thing to what you lost, without pretending you’re twenty-two.
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Josh Maranian is the Founder and Owner of RE:GEN Fitness Club, a semi-private personal training gym in North Fort Collins, Colorado. The gym specializes in helping adults who want to get strong, move well, and stay consistent without fitness taking over their lives.
